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04 October 2022

from hating my period to celebrating my feminine cycle /// my journey of womb healing and manifesting a painless period

in a video that I filmed years ago, entitled something about mind power / manifestation and changing the story of my "sleep problems" and severe pain that I'd dealt with for a long time, I vaguely talked about manifesting getting rid of period pain. I didn't mention what the pain actually was, but I've been wanting to talk about it more in-depth for a while now, and I am going to talk about it more in-depth in this article.

for a long time, I dealt with severe period pain and even cysts, and I've been to the ER multiple times over the past decade for the awful pain (it got to the point where pain meds barely helped at all, they would work sometimes, but a lot of times, they wouldn't -- even prescriptions). the pain wasn't just limited to during my period. it could be before, during, and last even after my period ended. and I also would and still do sometimes have a pinching pain in my lower tummy (of varied time length). I usually try to stretch it out to make it go away nowadays.

I once went 15 months without periods due to amenorrhea, something that I would still wish for over the years. part of me still does. I had a temporary amenorrhea last year (2021), due to (I believe) the way that I was eating (it didn't even need to be severely restrictive), but then my period happened again.

I started questioning things about my period a few years ago. I remember watching/reading something where someone was talking about basically questioning the idea of "childbirth being painful" and how it DOESN'T have to be, and I started questioning stuff about my period and how it doensn't have to be painful. I started questioning things more after going to the ER after that, and where I thought there would be a cyst (on my left side, aka my physiological right side), there wasn't one -- there was actually a small cyst on the other side.

I don't remember everything from that point, but my next period after that was basically painless. unfortunately, I still did deal with severe pain after this point, but finally, one year, I decided to stop taking pain medications. the pain became SO MUCH BETTER after that. I still dealt with a bit of cramping, but for so long, it wasn't that bad again. until it was (which was over a year later). and I had to go to the ER again (by the time that my fiancĂ© and I arrived, the pelvic pain was better, but my back was hurting). that was over a year after I'd stopped taking the pain pills, and I knew that there was a message in it, a message in the severe pain. 

I believe it could've been a combination of things.

even though I'd stopped taking pain pills, I was still using pain patches (including medicated ones). this is still a form of pain medication. and that time, I also used some pain med cream. I don't want to rely on medications. I like natural remedies, and I believe that there are messages in pain, illnesses, and other things, too. I self-reflect. I think about possible messages and meanings in/of things.

and, at the time, we were also living in a hostile/abusive environment, a household that was not our own, and where I did not feel welcome or safe. also, my pain was trivialized by two members of the household who didn't even understand what it was like, who acted like it wasn't even bad enough to justify going to the ER ("it's not that bad, Amy").

and I was consuming more processed/packaged food, stuff that had soy in it, and stuff out of plastic or that's packaged in plastic. (we generally try to avoid eating processed/packaged stuff and plastic-ey stuff and too much soy as much as reasonably possible. I do want to add, though, that I still sometimes do consume stuff like that, but the pain is still getting better.)

I believe in talking to my body, to my cells, etc. this is something that I started doing YEARS ago. I'm not sure exactly when I started talking to my body/cells or exactly when I started talking to my period / my womb / whatever, but I still do and will continue to do so. I also put my hand on my lower tummy / rub it sometimes, whether I'm talking to it or not.

in the past, I would sometimes "transmute" period pain in a way that would "split the pain" between my lower abdomen and another area, like my inner thigh or my lower back. and although transmuting the pain can make it seem more bearable, the pain is still pain. there's still discomfort. but a little while back, I started trying transmuting the pain into something else, like heat. also, I want to add that I still do use a heating pad. there are still concerns with that, though, because with heating pads, either it's an electric one or a microwavable one (the latter of which I haven't used in a long time). I've been wanting to get this really cute pawprint water bottle from Amazon. (it's not shaped like a drinking water bottle, it's bigger.) I also want to add that something else that has helped me before is subliminals for period pain. for example, one time when I was dealing with the cramps, I fell asleep listening to subliminals for period pain, and I woke up feeling better.

that severe pain episode was earlier this year. do I still experience period cramps thus far? yes, to an extent, but it's been getting better again. I still don't use pain reliever pills, and I'm not using pain patches anymore.

advice for practicing minimalism | reasonable minimalism and feeling empowered, not burdened

"“Why is this so hard” becomes “How can I make this easier?”" - Tonya Leigh.


1: you don't need to get rid of everything. minimalism is subjective. it is a philosophy, a principle, a practice. it is something that you practice over time. you can practice minimalism to whatever extent may be reasonable for you. you're the one who gets to decide what you resonate with as it relates to this subjective philosophy. I personally like both minimalism and maximalism. I like collecting things and decorating, and it needs to be very organized, -- things need places to be organized into, it helps to have things organized on the walls, with shelves/bookcases, toy hammocks, in drawers, on or in a desk/dresser/table, etc. also, as someone who deals with hoarding, it's important to me to be able to get rid of some things sometimes, which can feel empowering. minimalism should feel empowering, not like a burden. intend to feel empowered and practice minimalism in a way that is reasonable for you.


2: "little by little, bit by bit." you don't need to get rid of things all at once or all the time. it's a practice and a process. try to regularly de-clutter unnecessary junk so that it's not being hoarded and/or piling up. you don't have to feel like you need to go through the whole house and garage or whatever all at once or all in one day/week/month, etc. plan for long-term progress (that doesn't mean that you need to plan it all out, just intend to practice it long-term). minimalism isn't a one-size box that you need to rigidly fit your life into, plan for minimalism to fit into your life. you can take small steps and make some more progress over time. ask yourself how you can make things easier.


3: prevent. find ways to prevent unnecessary clutter. unsubscribe from spam (digital or snail mail, etc.), cancel shopping subscriptions that you don't need or want, really think about how much you want something before you buy it. re-use or re-purpose stuff. try one or a few things at once instead of a lot (renting less books from the library, buying less variations of things that you want to try until another time, etc.). save old paper or newspaper for the fireplace.

a list of 100 activities/hobbies

· learning languages · writing stories/poetry/articles · journaling · workbooks for personal growth · calligraphy · blogging · making lists · reading (books/stories/manga/manhwa/comics/articles/etc.) · memorizing things (quotes, facts, etc.) · making videos (youtube, tiktok, instagram, etc.) ·  drawing/sketching · painting · origami (paper folding) · photography · singing · playing an instrument · dancing · ballet · gymnastics· acting · improv acting · playing games (video games, board games, card games, etc.) · traveling · gardening · flower arranging · cooking/baking · cake decorating · canning (food/preserves) · prepping/prepsteading · scrapbooking · decorating · cosplay · creating asmr · shopping (within reason) · self-defense / martial arts · archery · parkour · freerunning · hiking · exercise (cardio, strength, etc.) · roller-skating/blading · watching videos/movies/shows/etc. · going to the theatres · going to conventions/expos/faires · sewing/embroidery · crochet · macrame · jewelry-making · resin crafts · clay work · basket weaving · advocacy (example: fighting to stop abortion) · taking quizzes · making money online by content creation or microtasking · selling stuff online (etsy, ebay, etc.) · monochrome colour fashion · fashion design · costume making · making props / prop weapons · creating magazines/zines · recording a podcast · collecting stuff · learning stuff and earning certificates (like on alison.com) · researching psychology / mental health · herbalism / researching natural remedies  · researching philosophies · dreamwork / lucid dreaming · manifestation · candle making · making figures with perler beads · making flower crowns · collecting crystals · growing crystals · volunteering · making a miniature sand garden · making stuffed animals / amigurumis · meditation · fixing stuff / odd jobs · tea parties · historical re-enactments · LARPing · colouring · puzzles / puzzlemaking · skincare · hairstyling · cosmetology · technology · coding · making balloon animals · making collages / vision boards · financial study · doll painting/re-painting/makeovers · making bookmarks · trying new foods at different restaurants · road-trips / van life · solving crossword puzzles · solving sudoku puzzles · filling out ad libs (example: a written story where you fill in blanks with random words · creating/solving riddles · recylcing/upcycling · self-care ·

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