On The Subject Of Gossiping (Unethical Speech).

Gossiping is a negative [anti-]social action that can ruin people's lives and people's reputations, even the life and the reputation of the person that's doing the gossiping. It makes you seem untrustworthy, insecure, and emotionally immature. It doesn't really bring people together ... at the least, not in a healthy way. How can you trust someone that talks badly about other people? How do you know that they won't do the same thing to you? You might think that they wouldn't and that you're both so close, but - guess what - you most likely don't have a definite immunity from it no matter how golden you believe your status with them to be. And how can you trust a gossip with important secrets? How can you feel safe with letting them know about things that you wouldn't want for other people to know? Also, when all that people can do is to talk / to complain about other people's flaws, it's just so negative and can kill the positive energy when you're trying to spend time with them. When you look for the bad in people, sometimes, you find it. Even if the gossip isn't true, you might start to notice something about someone /  think about them in a certain way that's based on lies / on meaningless gossip. Advocating for someone is way more positive than gossiping about them. Building them up, complimenting them, saying positive things about them ... instead of insulting them. All human beings have feelings, hopes, dreams, ideas, humanity, etc. We all deserve chances.

Someone's gossip usually only provides their version of the story. If it involves another person, then there could be another version of the story. Gossiping behind someone's back takes away someone's chance to defend themself against it as it's happening, because they are not there to provide their own insight, it is unfair, it can maybe even affect someone's reputation when it is undeserved, and it can be based on things like mistakes / misunderstandings / personal opinions. And it can also conveniently leave out the wrongdoings of the gossiper and / or another person / other people. Human beings make mistakes, so to continuously rub someone elses's mistakes in and / or to still affect their life negatively after they're not even involved in it anymore is kind if harsh. Seeking the truth ... more than just picking sides, more than just blindly believing someone out of "loyalty", and more than thinking that what's been said is the whole story when it's the only part of the story that's been said to you.

Gossiping = Unethical Speech.

Written on: 18 June 2018.
Edited / Updated & Posted on: 19 July 2018.